My husband as usual has been amazing. Supportive and caring. I often wonder if I would be as selfless as him if the situation was reversed . . . I can only hope so!!
Yesterday I was at a celebration of life for an old friend of my parents. I had connection to the woman when I was younger, but as I got older, not so much anymore. I went mainly for my parents. It was an odd situation. . . I won't get into the details, but stories had been circulating for years in their circle of friends about their son. What he was, or wasn't.
Over the last 20 years I had also formed an opinion on the son, and the situation, based solely on what I had heard. A lot of it based on speculation, some on what I saw, and some facts that were known to be true. I learned something about judging others yesterday, and forming opinions. The sons daughter got up to speak about her grandmother, and thru her speech she a few times eluded to her father, and how her grandmother had to endure things far more than any one person should have to.
For the first time I really understood that no matter what had or had not transpired, it didn't necessarily make the son a bad person . . . We all have varying levels of skills and tools to cope with life, and sometimes some people have a little bit harder time of it than others. What really mattered is that he had three children that loved both him and their grandmother, and it was a devastating time in their lives. My heart opened and allowed compassion to enter, and I felt good.
